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<div class="blogparent">from the book “<a href="/n">Hell Yeah or No</a>”:</div>
<h1>I love being wrong</h1>
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Most of the time, I feel smart, successful, and driven — like I’ve got it all figured out.
But last month a bunch of stuff knocked me on my ass.
I’ve never felt so wrong.
I vulnerably called on friends for help.
They gave me a bunch of good advice, and helped me see things from a new point of view.
Each different perspective made me feel good for a while.
Then I fell back into the whirlpool of destructive thoughts.
Whenever something has gone wrong in my life, I’ve asked myself, “What’s great about this?”
Usually I find an answer.
But this time, my only answer was, “Nothing. This just sucks.”
I tried asking it again every day or two, but the answer was the same.
Eventually, I had an epiphany.
<strong>I actually love being wrong</strong>, even though it cracks my confidence, <strong>because that’s the only time I learn.</strong>
<strong>I actually love being lost</strong>, even though it fuels fears, <strong>because that’s when I go somewhere unexpected.</strong>
I pursue being wrong and lost in small doses.
I love little lessons that surprise my expectations and change my mind.
If we’re not surprised, we’re not learning.
So I finally figured out what’s great about this.
Getting knocked on my ass made me humble as hell.
It’d been years since I’d called for help.
It’d been years since I was so open to advice.
I smiled, thinking of how much I’d learned from my friends this past month.
I realized how ultimately happy it makes me to be so empty, even if it really hurts at first.
It’s better than thinking I’ve got it all figured out.
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