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<h1>Daydreaming the downside, for once</h1>
<small>2019-10-02</small>
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	A few years ago, I thought it would be fun to get into camping.
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	I live in New Zealand!
	How can I not?
	I daydreamed about it, picturing how much fun it could be.
	I read a book about it.
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	I carefully picked out then bought some highly-recommended gear: a tent, two sleeping bags, two air mattresses, and a light backpack.
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	We used it once.
	It’s still in my garage.
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…
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	Last year, I thought it would be fun to get a <a href="https://www.native-instruments.com/en/products/maschine/production-systems/maschine/">Maschine</a>.
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	A new way of making music!
	I daydreamed about it, picturing how much fun it could be.
	I read about it and watched videos about it.
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	After a few weeks of this, I felt the time was right.
	I bought one.
	I played with it a while for the first day, then got back to my normal life, intending to spend more time with it.
	But I never did.
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	Every day I would look at it, thinking I should use it.
	After half a year, I gave up, and gave it to a friend.
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…
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	Last week, I thought it would be fun to get a new bicycle.
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	I’ve never tried a carbon frame, <a href="https://www.sram.com/en/sram/road/collections/etap-axs">modern gearing</a>, or any of the cool new developments in bicycle tech.
	I live in <a href="https://www.oxfordtimes.co.uk/resources/images/9486391.jpg">Oxford, a cycling city</a>!
	How can I not?
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	I’ve been daydreaming about it, picturing how much fun it could be.
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	Wait!
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	Hold on.
	Have I learned nothing?
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	So I tried picturing the downside, instead.
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	I pictured myself not using it, like the camping gear, Maschine, and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motorhome">other things</a> I didn’t mention here.
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	I remembered the pain of guilt, regret, and waste.
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	The conflicted feelings of wanting this thing, but not quite enough.
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	And I decided against it.
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…
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	That said, I’m not sure what to conclude.
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	The only mistake was buying instead of renting?
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	Give up on trying new things, and just amplify my current focus?
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	Daydream and learn all about new things, but stop thinking I need to own them?
	(Awareness is enough for me?)
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	Or maybe the mistake was giving up?
	<a href="/book/AtomicHabits">Building new habits takes time</a> and effort.
	After that initial challenge, my life could be richer by the expanded activities in my repertoire.
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	Something else?
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