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<h1>Tilting my mirror (motivation is delicate)</h1>
<small>2016-12-05</small>
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	Motivation is delicate.
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	When you notice your motivation fading, you have to seek out the subtle cause.
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	A simple tweak can make all the difference between achieving something or not.
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	An hour outside my city, there’s a little mountain range.
	The other side is gorgeous.
	But the road that crosses the mountains is very twisted, with sharp turns every few seconds.
	The first two times I drove across, my kid threw up in the back seat.
	It’s also stressful because I’m surrounded by mountain scenery but I can’t take my eyes off the winding road.
	Though I drive at a normal speed, the other cars follow impatiently on my tail, because many of them drive this road every day.
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	Crossing the mountains takes only half an hour, but I always arrive exhausted.
	The stress was affecting my motivation enough that I wanted to stop visiting.
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	So one day I tried a new approach: I drove really slowly.
	Now the turns didn’t make my kid sick.
	Now I could afford to take a few seconds to glance sideways and appreciate the scenery.
	Now it wasn’t stressful, except for one thing: the impatient queue of cars behind me.
	I care (perhaps too much) about other people, so just seeing them in my mirror made me go back to driving faster than I wanted, which brought back all the original problems.
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	So I made one simple tweak:
	I tilted my rear-view mirror up towards the ceiling so I couldn’t see anything behind me.
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	That little tweak changed everything!
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	Now it feels like I’m almost alone on this gorgeous mountain drive.
	Going at my own pace, not influenced or stressed by anyone else.
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	There’s a passing lane every few minutes, so when it comes, the other cars whiz by me.
	But for thirty minutes, they’re not my problem.
	When I get to the other side of the mountain, I put my mirror back.
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	Now I visit all the time — no stress at all.
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	You know I’m going for the metaphor here:
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	Social media comments
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	Distracting environments
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	Discouraging family members
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	Your email inbox
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	Even the toughest of us have delicate motivation.
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	When you notice that something is affecting your drive, find a way to adjust your environment, even if that’s a little inconvenient for others.
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