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<div class="blogparent">from the book “<a href="/m">Your Music and People</a>”:</div>
<h1>Persistence is polite.</h1>
<small>2000-05-07</small>
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	As teenagers, we learned the hard way that if you contact someone and they don’t reply, they’re just not into you.
	If you keep trying, you must be a total loser.
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	But in the business world, it’s the opposite.
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	If you don’t keep trying, you’re a loser!
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	If someone doesn’t get back to you, it probably wasn’t intentional.
	Everyone is busy, and their situation has nothing to do with you.
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	Imagine two different scenarios:
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	Someone doesn’t reply, so you get upset and decide they’re evil and clearly meant to insult you.
	You resent them for life, and speak poorly of them forever.
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	Someone doesn’t reply, so you assume they must be swamped in work.
	You wait a week, and contact them again.
	If still no reply, you feel sympathy that they must be really overwhelmed.
	You wait a week, and try again.
	If still no reply, you try to reach them a different way.
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	Now, which one was rude, and which one was polite?
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