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<h1>My loss</h1>
<small>2010-07-03</small>
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	In one year:
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	My wife divorced me, and took my life savings.
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	90% of my company was no longer mine, on a <a href="/mistake">technicality</a>.
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	My apartment was destroyed, so I slept and showered in the warehouse.
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	All my employees, led by my good friend and VP, led a mutiny against me.
	(I never returned, and never saw them again.)
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	I invested everything I had left in a mutual fund, which fell 50% immediately, and never came back.
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	The woman I was madly in love with married the guy she would always complain to me about.
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	Two weeks after that year ended, three companies called asking if I wanted to sell my company.
	Though I had said no to that question for ten years, this time I said <a href="/done">yes</a>.
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	I had messed up so bad, I had to walk away.
	I had done everything wrong, and needed to cleanse myself of all those bad decisions.
	I needed to take some time to learn from my mistakes, and replace my thoughts with new ones.
	A self-made back-to-schooling.
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	I look back at that year, and know it won’t get much worse.
	If I can handle that, I can handle anything.
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	The company sale was announced.
	The first time someone said “congratulations” I said, “For what? I messed up so bad I lost my baby. That’s nothing to congratulate.”
	For future congratulations, I just <a href="/horses">shrug</a>.
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	We all underestimate our ability to massively change our life when it’s gone off track.
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	Say “no” where you used to say “yes”.
	Say “yes” where you used to say “no”.
	Do the thing that scares you the most, then get up and go.
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	For those of you considering a massive change, I can tell you from experience:
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	It’s awesome here on the other side.
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