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<div class="blogparent">from the book “<a href="/n">Hell Yeah or No</a>”:</div>
<h1>Overcompensate to compensate</h1>
<small>2016-02-23</small>
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	You have something you want to change: a thought process or habit you want to fix.
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	Let’s use the metaphor of a bunch of bricks on a seesaw.
	Right now all the bricks are stacked on one side.
	This is the way you have been.
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	To make a change, <strong>most people don’t do enough.</strong>
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	If you do something small and sensible, it’s like moving one brick to the other side.
	You’re still unbalanced.
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	You think you made the change, but it’s not accounting for:
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	a lifetime of doing it the other way,
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	the environment that made you that way, and
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	the pressure from friends to stay that way.
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	To make a change, you have to be extreme.
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	Go all the way the other way.
	<strong>It will feel like overcompensating</strong>, but you have to stack a huge pile of bricks on the other side.
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	This new you sounds extreme and exciting.
	You’ll think you’re going to be completely changed.
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	But actually the old stuff is still there.
	So really this is what you needed to do to balance — to compensate for that cultural baggage, self-identity, habit, and history.
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	Once you’re balanced, the new perspective will sink in and become your new normal.
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