.builds/readme: use venvs

update discordgo

add message contents intent and rename intents

sides/discord: accept urls terminated in ')'

some IRC clients also pick up on the ) that follows a URL

update girc

go moment

messagerenderer: link to reply in (reply to) tag

messagerenderer: pull highlight out to front of msg

this matches what irssi expects

builds: use debian/stable

allow disabling ssl

irc: drop :<HOST> from nicks

this was perceived poorly and makes the previous commit work worse

add names to reply tags on IRC

run go mod tidy

discord: generate short message render URLs

handle global names

requires updating discordgo, take the chance to also update other deps

irc: add unit to just-in-case time

whoops.

readme: correct use of pre and code

irc: set realname according to usernames

irc: translate CTCP ACTION into _%s_

this matches discords behavior on /me

discord: correct links to replied messages

readme: fix syntax